Teach me how to love,by musiq soulchild….
This song makes me cringe, a little. Is it just me, or is it an impossible task to teach someone how to love? Shouldn’t you already know how to love me, in order for me to feel safe enough to invest myself? Is it worth it? What do you think?
What does that mean to you? From my experience, it means having my priorities all discombobulated. It means being so caught up in what people will think, say, feel about my life that I forget that my ultimate goal for me is peace and happiness, so fear and resentment stick around a little longer–actually as long as I allow it to stay, it does.
In my life, “supposed” ; it’s such an ugly word. I held on so tight to the lie of what my life was “supposed” to be (false perceptions handed down by family, friends, peers, society), that I didn’t realize that all I had to do was let go of “supposed” to reveal the truth that was already there whether I like it or not.Continue reading
“Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering you own imperfections but instantly set about remedying them – every day begin the task anew.”
“Patience serves as a protection against wrongs as clothes do against cold. For if you put on more clothes as the cold increases, it will have no power to hurt you. So in like manner you must grow in patience when you meet with great wrongs, and they will then be powerless to vex your mind.”
I want to invite you to play a game with me. It’s called The Happy Game, its fun and easy. The goal is to find new ways to be happy every day of your life for the rest of your life. It’s suitable for all ages and the game ends whenever you decide it does, but don’t worry you can always drop back in. The only rule is to do good things that make you happy. Are you game? Great!
Well, there are 31 types of happiness. One for every day of the month. How you achieve them is up to you. You can chose whichever of the 31 that you like each day, you can do as many as you like everyday, you can do repeats, you can carry this list with you or you can make a deck of cards, shuffle them–once you chose one you can have fun creating that form of happiness.
1. Amazed: Wow yourself!
2. Amused: Make yourself laugh.
3. Anticipation: Know that there is joy right around the corner. Expect it and look for it.
4. Borrowed: Celebrate someone else’s victory.
5. Celebrate: Find something to throw a party for. Big or small, new dress or a new job, new thoughts and new dreams. New love. Dance like no one is watching!
6. Cheerful: Be that person that sees the light in all things today. Be sickening with it. It’s contagious!
7. Compassion: Acknowledge someone else’s hard time today, and make it easier on them by letting them know you care. Be happy for you ability to do so.
8. Content: Be held together like glue today, no matter what happens brush your shoulders off!
9. Delight: Be giddy about something you would normally overlook today. Something small and what you would usually consider insignificant.
10. Enthusiastic: Believe in your happiness and let it show in all that you do!
11. Exuberant: Be so happy today that people can’t deny or overlook it. Let your light shine for you and everyone else!
12. Fun: If this game isn’t fun enough, play another one. Hide and seek?
13. Give: Find out how good it feels to sacrifice for the sake of others. Find happiness in making someone smile.
14. Glad: You don’t always have to do it big. Just be glad. Nothing fancy. Just glad.
15. Grateful: Focus all the things that went right in your life. Every time you have the urge to complain, counteract with gratitude.
16. Hopeful: Know that it’s coming, even if you don’t see it.
Shhhh…do you hear that? I guess you don’t, because it’s just me here (well, me and Ameerah and Noah, the kitties-slash-kiddies).
Ameerah and Noah
The TV is off. No music. No phone. If I listen with my heart and not my ears, there is certainly something to be heard. Trust me, it’s true. Go ahead and try it, take some time and cut off all of your distractions. Do it in the middle of the day, when you are most alert. Listen…What do you hear?